psychotropica asked:

'Women against feminism’ is essentially privileged women declaring sexism doesn’t exist because they haven’t experienced it. Did you know the biggest threat to any woman's life is her partner? Not cancer, not HIV, literally up to half of all women murdered in the world are killed by their partner. And yet you've still got bitches misinterpreting feminism and believing it has no part in this work because a man never lifted a hand to them. Disgusting.





That’s absolutely not why I’m against feminism at all, friendo. 

Feminism isn’t going to stop your partner from hurting you. It really isn’t. Feminism is gaining equality for women, which has already been achieved in first-world countries. Sexism is ALWAYS going to exist, whether feminism is around or not, because the fact of the matter is that there are people out there, men and women alike, who believe that one gender is inferior to the other(s). There are women on here who have mentioned initiating a “holocaust of men” and there are men on here who have made rude, sexist remarks towards women. 

Feminism exists. That doesn’t mean it’s going to stop people from acting like assholes. 

Also, for someone who claims to be a feminist, the term “bitch” really shouldn’t be in your vocabulary, especially when you’re describing another woman who just so happens to have a different view than you do. “Disgusting.” 



It is rather thought-provoking, I think, that people believe an ideology will stop a behavior from happening. Granted, feminism will create laws that help women (and even harm men) if enough hullabaloo is caused. Inevitably, these laws will be broken, people will be hurt, and the practice will continue. 

The caste system in India is, as far as I know, officially banned in practice, however the ideology of it still very much exists and works deep within the villages and smaller towns. I compare this somewhat to feminism - not the caste system to feminism, but the outlawing of the caste system and its continuation of practice to the implementation of feminism and the refusal to accept it. 

No matter how hard you try to change people, they ultimately only change one of two ways: if they want to be changed, and by force. Third-wave radical feminists, as of late, have taken to the latter, trying to determine whether or not using physical and emotional forces (i.e. “male holocaust” and Valerie Solanas’s “Scum Manifesto”).

-By correcting a man and telling him that “go make me a sandwich” jokes aren’t really tolerated while you’re around, he may cease and decidedly stop making them altogether. That’s called respect and obtaining equality.
-By knocking his teeth out and kicking him in the balls, then coloring yourself in a black eye, posting it on Tumblr, and falsely accusing him of punching you back after he made a sexist joke, you’re only harming your own movement. That man is going to have a forever-engrained idea of feminism equalling BAD and spread it around. 

It’s thought provoking in a sense that instilling feminist ideals, traditional feminist ideals, in our children (in developed countries, might I add), male, female, or otherwise, will happen naturally because of the first-world many of us live in. Women are respected, and women are given more rights than most men. In many cases, these rights and “privileges” as many Tumblrites want to call them carry over into our judicial system, allowing women to get away with more and brag about it more frequently, while the males stand by and are accused of rape and pillage if they disagree, and being “whipped” if they do. What’s this double standard have to say about the society we’re raising?

I think it says that equality is relative. There is not an actually attained EQUALITY because, what one woman sees as equality for herself with a male, another woman will see as needing to demand her pedestal be HIGHER than her male counterpart’s because she’s shorter on the totem. There’s an image floating around here of a short person and a tall person standing on the same heighth step - one’s head is raised higher than the other, and a second image of the same two people at the same head height, but their steps are different sizes. “This is equality,” it says on the second image, implying that equality is making everyone’s heads equal height, even if that means one person gets special privileges the other may not. 

That’s bullshit. Equality is ensuring that the same laws, same punishments, same privileges, and same rights are obtained for men, women, and non-binary genders and sexes. Equality isn’t conveyed through a photo or a drawing. There will always be sexism, there will always be arguments and male-provoked drama, just as there will always be female-provoked drama and females attacking other females, as well, and then crying internalized misogyny. It’s not going to go away with the institutionalization of a word that people throw around as though it means everything: feminism. Feminism is focused strictly on women and always has been, but now that women are in the same light that men are, ask yourself these questions:

Which rights are going to be taken away from men in order to appease women? Are those women going to be satisfied when they have more rights, or are they going to demand more? Will those rights be amended in any way, and are they going to end up causing more trouble in the end of the story? Will your fathers, brothers, sons, and uncles be affected, and if they will be, are you going to be okay with it when they end up jailed for a false accusation or too-little provided evidence? When you wake up every morning, will you actually see yourself as equal, or are you looking to be named superior? 

There are two kinds of pride, both good and bad. ‘Good pride’ represents our dignity and self-respect. ‘Bad pride’ is the deadly sin of superiority that reeks of conceit and arrogance.” 

Become tolerant. By tolerant, I mean accepting, and of people, not actions. Don’t settle, don’t stand and burn. But don’t burn others because you’ve been touched by fire, too. Use your experiences to assist those in less-fortunate situations, and take the time to think about what you’re really hoping to achieve through supporting movements that are radicalized and evermore moot. 


It would also really help if all you rad fems quit saying all men are scum and stopped painting the world to be this black and white place when there are shades of grey, and even a rainbow of colors to see.

You just might gain more momentum in your cause if you presented rational arguments instead of accusing those of us with a more balanced view point on make and female issues to be “privileged women who haven’t experienced sexism.” I assure you, I most certainly have.


Anonymous asked:

wait so is a trigger anything you dislike?




A trigger is anything that ilicits a negative response in someone, so in some sense, yeah?

No it fucking isn’t. A trigger is some thing, you know, triggers a psychological response that takes you away from reality, causes severe panic attacks, makes you black out, among other horrible things.

To our anon wondering what a trigger is.

<3 Eros


Anonymous asked:

Having trouble submitting images right now, but yet another Cracked article's prompting their comment section to bubble over with tumblr hate. My favourite comment: "Tumblr singlehandedly killed any belief I had in any named equal rights movement. If I'm going to support people, I'm supporting ALL people, and I'm not gonna slap a label on myself and side with someone. There shouldn't even be labels and sides in helping all humans live equally in the world."



Since people seem to understand classism better than other forms of oppression, I’ll use that as an example.

When poor people support each other, it can allow them to survive when they otherwise wouldn’t. It can lead to better working conditions, better pay, and can help poor people escape tough circumstances.

When rich people support each other, you wind up with collusion and fascism and all sorts of legitimately awful things.

Ideally, yes, everyone should help each other have the things they need and control over their lives. But rich people don’t need any more support, they already have what they need.

We don’t achieve justice or equality or whatever by pretending we already have those things. We achieve those goals by realizing who is being hurt by systems of injustice and inequality and working with them to address those things.










Boys hurt too

i am absolutely terrified and horrified by this

that’s because with boys a chemical is released in their brain when they make the decision and boys are more likely to hang or shoot themselves, so it always gets done first try. Meanwhile, girls tend to cut and mostly take pills, a method easier to mess up and easier to be saved, thus more attempts and less effect.

Yeah, but boys hurt too

Also boys are a lot less likely to chicken out
Statistics say that more males go through with suicide attempts than females

You know how radfems get mad when guys “hijack a post”


"released a chemical in the brain"


androgens mask ‘classic’ depression symptoms, which leads to signs known as “male pattern” depression

Male pattern depression can include signs seen infrequently in women:

  • Lower stress threshold
  • Aggressive behavior or difficulty controlling impulses
  • Irritability, restlessness, dissatisfaction
  • Anxiety, especially in the morning
  • Alcohol abuse or illegal drug use
  • Excessive exercise or work
  • Hyperactive behavior
  • Eating too little or too much
  • Antisocial behavior and/or pushing or testing social norms

This, by the by, is the cause of ‘the depression gap’. There actually aren’t more depressed women than men, it’s just that in men it presents as other disorders.

the other problem men and boys aren’t given the mental skills to impart their needs, let alone expect them to be met. It would help if people started giving a shit.

This makes me very sad. Especially since when a boy/man gets sad and/or depressed they are told to “man up” and “get over it”, which ends up in them bottling up and suppressing all of their emotions, which can have devastating effects.
- Mod Helga

not to mention this is how feminists reacted when someone tried to give a lecture where this was one of the topics to be discussed


Anonymous asked:

"It's a metaphor" I have no doubt that you completely understand and stand by this statement that the act of putting an unlit cigarette in Augustus Waters' mouth is in fact a metaphor. But for some folks, we don't see it asa metaphor, we see it as situational irony, or a simple statement. Please explain how it is a metaphor.


Well, a character in a novel saying that something is a metaphor is not the same thing as the author of the novel saying that it’s a metaphor. Gus’s intellectual grasp often exceeds his reach (he calls a monologue a soliloquy, and misuses quite a few of the bigger words in his vocabulary). But I do think the cigarette is a metaphor, albeit a different one for us than it is for him.

Gus’s idea is that the cigarette is a metaphor for illness, and he keeps it unlit and in his mouth as an expression of his power over illness. “You put the killing thing between your teeth but you don’t give it the power to do its killing.” Gus’s thinking here is that HE has the power. This is why he tends to use the cigarette when he’s feeling nervous or powerless. (He’s also using the most famous commercially available carcinogen to make this statement, so obviously there’s a connection there in his mind: Humans can prevent cancer by not smoking; cancer is something we can have power over; your job is not to give cancer the power to kill you; etc.) 

But of course Gus is wrong about all of this, or at least almost all of it. You may have SOME control over whether you die of cancer (you can choose not to smoke), but in most cases humans don’t have control over illness. “You don’t give it the power to do its killing” imagines more agency over illness than we actually have, because in the end much of the fault is in the stars, not in ourselves. So to us, the unlit cigarette is a metaphor for our false perception of control, and our urgent need to feel in control. It’s no coincidence, then, that when Gus’s life is spiraling out of control and he finds himself powerless before fate, he tries (and fails) to buy cigarettes.

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